CRM is a biologically focused model of stress management. It is not psychotherapy but rather an easy-to-learn model of self-regulation that can be taught to anyone regardless of age/ethnicity/culture. testimony indicates the impact of using Community Resiliency Model skills in daily life, helping people live goal-oriented life.
Martial Status: Single
I am the last born in a family of 7 children; I was raised by my Mom alone because my dad passed away when I was ten in 2013. Afterward, I grew up with the ambition to become a great person in the future; I was a pretty lovely girl everyone admired; unfortunately, I did not realize that my beauty would destroy my future. My life was ruined at the age of 18 when I got pregnant and gave birth to my only Son. All the people around me left me, including my only Mom, who got deceived more.
I stopped the school in senior five from raising my child and resumed after two years to complete age six. Since then, none has treated me as a person as if I am the first girl to give birth. Some people seemed to care about me, but they were lying. Everyone saw me as a prostitute to sleep with. At that time, I felt disparate and thought that I was cursed and wanted to kill my Son, I saw him as the trouble maker, and my life lost meaning and depressed completely. I only remained thinking about committing suicide, but I failed. Afterward, I applied for a teaching position.
I have started working, but my future looks pessimistic because I always think that I am not in the correct position. It was also nearly impossible to provide parental affection to my Son or the students I teach.
I recently met with Mr. Twahirwa Ildephonse, RRGO staff, currently working at our school. He invited me one day and told me that if I am available, I could give him a short time to discuss the model that he knows and thinks can significantly impact my life. I didn’t give him time, but I promised to meet him in a couple of days. We met and introduced a model called “Community Resiliency model skills. I was hopelessly traumatized because I always felt afraid and remembered what my future would look like within my situation.
He taught me skills, and he invited me to do practice with him. From my experience, I learned that I didn’t understand, but I sense it when we do practice. He asked me to search for another thing I see as my resource (any things that make me comfortable and bring joy ). I was surprised to find my Son as my resource. He is the one I care about a lot, and I talk to him and feel positive.
Since then, I started feeling the change in my life. Since I kept working with him on this model, It is now two months; I feel the complete transformation. I used to feel afraid of what happened to me and feel ashamed, but I discovered the strength within that situation. I am the right person to be the mum of my Son. God granted me him to help me and him to reach our potential.
Currently, I am a like-new person with a new life plan. I am dreaming about my future life like before I get pregnant. Now, I see that having my child is such a precious gift because thinking about him now and talking about him is remade. I am thankful that I met with my Guardian Angel (Ildephonse) . He taught me skills that help me to understand myself . The model shapes my plan and I hope to achieve more. I do more grounding practice, like working by paying attention to my work, and I like pushing walls when I feel stressed and become over.
I can’t keep quiet anymore about the importance of the model; I need to share these healing words and practice with others. I request him if he could train more girls who got early pregnancy because many are suffering like I was suffering because of different things, including culture, family members, and environment that we grow in. I am sure and confident that this model can help them as it helps me back in my well-being.
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